The Port Susan Middle School Counseling Program is an integral part of the total school environment. The counseling program encourages student growth in the areas of academics, social/emotional, personal, and career (goal setting).
Your school counselor: Keli Niegemann
Counselor’s Corner-June 2017
Sometimes just mentioning the word “stress” can create tensions for some people. It is impractical and unrealistic to think that we can eliminate all stress from our lives. Some stress is actually healthy and can help generate new approaches to the situations we face. Unfortunately, unhealthy stress also exists. As parents, children will follow our examples. Children model how parents handle stressful situations. Often, we can significantly reduce this stress and make a real difference in our family life by keeping a few basic principles in mind when conflict arises:
Find the source of the stress. After a blow up occurs, we are usually concentrating so hard on settling the dispute that we fail to look at the cause. Take a minute and examine the situation. Most likely the source of the stress is fairly simple, and it may not appear to be at all related to what happened.
Meet to discuss the problems. Meetings need not be formal. You can simply ask everyone to stay at the dinner table a few extra minutes while you speak about what is on your mind. Make sure you keep your discussion short. If new problems arise that require more discussion, ask that they be dealt with next time.
Emphasize parents as stress role models. It is important for parents to handle stress in a healthy way. Children often imitate what they see at home. Be aware of how you and your spouse (or other family members) work out your differences. Keep the level of hostility down, even if you have to bite your tongue, so that the tension dissipates quickly.
Set times for chores, meals, and homework. Even though this may seem impossible, it can work. Turning the TV off for a couple of hours every afternoon, for example, could give everyone time for homework and chores. If the schedule for TV time creates a conflict, you can rotate times from week to week.
Cut down the noise level. Special attention should be given to loud music, ringing phones, and other noisy disturbances. Often, a loud TV in the background can make a stressful situation even worse. Simply turning down the volume on a phone or TV can make a big difference.
(Source: Helping Hand)
You may contact PSMS’s Counselor, Keli Niegemann